diff --git a/apps/desktop/lib/src/shell/party_strip.dart b/apps/desktop/lib/src/shell/party_strip.dart
index 87ae2f3b..19d8cc17 100644
--- a/apps/desktop/lib/src/shell/party_strip.dart
+++ b/apps/desktop/lib/src/shell/party_strip.dart
@@ -508,7 +508,10 @@ class MembersCard extends StatelessWidget {
                       alignment: Alignment.centerLeft,
                       child: TextButton.icon(
                         key: const ValueKey('copy-invite'),
-                        onPressed: () => copyToClipboard(context, friendInviteLink(address, nav.serverLabel.peek()),
+                        onPressed: () => copyToClipboard(
+                            context,
+                            friendInviteLink(address, nav.serverLabel.peek(),
+                                secret: AppScope.of(context).connection.params?.secret ?? ''),
                             done: 'Invite link copied'),
                         icon: const Icon(Icons.copy, size: 16),
                         label: const Text('Copy invite link'),
@@ -627,10 +630,11 @@ bool versionDiffers(String version, {String own = appVersion}) =>
     version.isNotEmpty && own != '0.0.0-dev' && version != '0.0.0-dev' && version != own;
 
 /// The invite link to a friend's server you are in ([address] as dialled,
-/// "host:port"; never its password).
-String friendInviteLink(String address, String name) {
+/// "host:port"), with the password you joined with: the link is the key,
+/// as for your own server.
+String friendInviteLink(String address, String name, {String secret = ''}) {
   final a = addressIn(address);
   final port = a == null ? null : int.tryParse(a.port);
   if (a == null || port == null) return address;
-  return InviteLink(host: a.host, port: port, name: name).uri;
+  return InviteLink(host: a.host, port: port, name: name, secret: secret).uri;
 }
diff --git a/apps/desktop/test/invite_links_test.dart b/apps/desktop/test/invite_links_test.dart
index f493b5cf..f1f83e0b 100644
--- a/apps/desktop/test/invite_links_test.dart
+++ b/apps/desktop/test/invite_links_test.dart
@@ -11,6 +11,7 @@ import 'package:starsync/src/session/invite.dart';
 import 'package:starsync/src/session/join_offers.dart';
 import 'package:starsync/src/session/navigation.dart' show Place;
 import 'package:starsync/src/session/public_address.dart';
+import 'package:starsync/src/shell/party_strip.dart' show friendInviteLink;
 import 'package:starsync/src/shell/join_offer_card.dart';
 import 'package:starsync/src/state/connect_prefs.dart' show RecentServer;
 
@@ -33,6 +34,13 @@ String health({String name = "Bob's server", String version = '1.3.2', int viewe
 final _graph = testGraph(healthGet: (uri) async => health());
 
 void main() {
+  test('a friend\'s server: the copied link carries the password you joined with', () {
+    final link = friendInviteLink('example.org:6969', "Bob's server", secret: 'hunter2');
+    final back = InviteLink.parse(link)!;
+    expect([back.host, back.port, back.secret], ['example.org', 6969, 'hunter2']);
+    expect(friendInviteLink('example.org:6969', 'Bob'), isNot(contains('pw=')));
+  });
+
   group('invite link', () {
     test('round trip: address, name and password, which never shows in toString', () {
       const link = InviteLink(host: '203.0.113.7', port: 9000, name: "Bob's server & co", secret: 'p@ss w&rd=1');
diff --git a/docs/ARCHITECTURE.md b/docs/ARCHITECTURE.md
index eafbb1fc..a4c9f999 100644
--- a/docs/ARCHITECTURE.md
+++ b/docs/ARCHITECTURE.md
@@ -2011,8 +2011,9 @@ panel) and chat messages (Copy message, and a link in it).
   computer; no internet address found: the link works on the home network
   only); "Other addresses" (folded, only with more than one) lists each
   address of `YourServer.reach` (Internet, Home network, VPN) to pick
-  what Copy copies; on a friend's, "Copy invite link" (the dialled address
-  and its name, never a password)).
+  what Copy copies; on a friend's, "Copy invite link" (the dialled address,
+  its name and the password you joined with: the link is the key there
+  too))).
   Empty strip space is the window
   drag area; the window buttons sit at its end.
 - **Avatars** (`avatar.dart`): `StatusAvatar` draws a ring outside the