Server on an isolate, dedicated server binary, room -> server (proto 5)

- serve(Map config, events) is the one server entrypoint: the app
  hosts it via Isolate.spawn (crash surfaced on the Host card, logs
  forwarded as [server]); bin/server.dart is the dedicated server,
  compiled into the bundle as watch-together-server. --headless gone.
- Host identity via a per-hosting hostKey in hello, replacing the
  loopback heuristic.
- Rename room -> server across code, files and wire (t:"state",
  /health name); protocol bumped to 5.
- CI compiles the server binary; isolate smoke tests in server and
  desktop suites. Docs updated.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

packages/server/lib/server.dart

@@ -1,4 +1,5 @@
 export 'src/media_endpoint.dart';
-export 'src/room_hub.dart';
-export 'src/room_server.dart';
+export 'src/serve.dart';
+export 'src/server_hub.dart';
 export 'src/session.dart';
+export 'src/sync_server.dart';